For the profile of a sociopath watch this short instructional video
Sociopaths have a perception of the truth that is all their own. The problem is they are so convinced of their truth, that they have this amazing persuasive ability with others. They are the type who can lie, steal, rape, abuse....and it never happened. You are making things up and you are the one who is crazy. You present evidence that is concrete - they can convincingly explain away your concrete piece of black and white evidence. On the other hand, they have an uncanny ability to manipulate a flimsy piece of paper that is barely legible so that even an intelligent judge will sit there with a blank, glassy-eyed stare, nodding in agreement with them. It beats anything I have ever seen. I think they must have some sort of hypnotic ability.
If you think you can reason with a sociopath or appeal to their conscience, forget it. You probably could if they had one, but they don't. That is one of the things that makes them so dangerous.
I have a theory that parental alienators are sociopaths. That is what enables them to heartlessly keep a parent from a child, even though there is no real compelling reason to do so. They just want to destroy them.
I personally witnessed this with my daughter who flew 4000 miles from Alaska to Texas just to surprise her son on his 6th birthday only to be refused access to him. All of our appealing to the child's best interest was to no avail. He even said he did not believe he is harming the child by intentionally keeping him from his mother (typical sociopathic denial). We were naive enough to believe that once he won custody, his controlling ways would stop. Please, if you're reading this, don't make that mistake. Like Elizabeth Bennett says - Bullies Do Not Grow Up: They Grow Worse. (Read her article here http://www.bloggernews.net/118363)
Having come away from such an unpleasant confrontation frustrated, sad, feeling powerless, watching my daughter sob, I at first felt angry, then depressed, then angry, then energized - so I started this blog.
I realized, though, after that experience, that I was obsessing over it so much that I was making myself crazy - and that's when I had the revelation. You can't reason with a sociopath. They don't care about your pain - and they never will. They don't care about what's best for their kid, and short of a lightning strike to reboot their brain, they never will. Nope. The only way you can deal with a bully is you have to find someone to stop them. And no, I don't mean a hit man!
The court is supposed to prevent that sort of thing. We shall see.
Anna
5 comments:
Monty Python??? This video is definately a perfect illustration for this article. Unfortunately in today's society..One parent or the other seems to have that sociopathic tendency..Don't know perhaps it's in the water??
Alienators are sociopaths. All of them display 2,3 or even more signs on Personality Disorders, such as Borderline, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Schzoid, Narcissitic, personality types that display in their MMPI-II findings, and they are all hateful people. They deserve to be in jail.
http://mkg4583.wordpress.com/2009/07/22/severe-sociopath-behavior-leads-to-parental-alienation/
This article is insightful. Parental alienators are sociopaths who use social aggression as a weapon. Social aggression is described in Rachel Simmons book "Odd Girl Out", and can be seen in a very simple form in the Megan Meier murder. Saying that a sociopath who attacks by using the children to have PAS is like saying a sociopath who attacks with a hammer has 'hammeritus'. Sociopathy is a growing problem in America and perhaps world wide, I believe this can be seen in such studies as, http://www.dukenews.duke.edu/2006/06/socialisolation.html. Just at a time when we need protection from sociopaths who would use children and such methods as false allegations, we instead have created more weapons for them to use in the family courts and DV establishment. See the much more extreme case of a mother who had her child held in a psychiatric ward because he wanted to live with his father, www.ITIOaChild.com
So True... Courts are supposed to help - however, it depends on the Judge. Some are awaks and some are so busy, or screwed up themselves...
I wish there were Panels or a 'jury' in Family Court Hearings. Alienated parents/ Target Parents would have much better results. Especially for us who represent ourselves in court.
I completely agree we need a panel to judge in a divorce because it is all too easy for the "trier of the facts," aka the judge to form a bias early on and never get over it; not to mention the fact that victims of sociopathic abuse rarely make good witnesses in court because they are shell-shocked and most of the time have the confusion, forgetfulness, etc. so prevalent with PTSD, so the sociopath does what he or she does best - charm. That just makes the poor victim look all the more unbelievable.
Laws definitely need to change to prevent this.
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